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Guest Kimberly Anne Bell

The Write or Die Podcast

The Write-or-Die Show is a podcast and Youtube channel where we openly discuss mental health, the truths, the difficulties and strategies to cope. My last appearance was on the One Woman Fearless Virtual Summit. In this episode, I talk about my choices and mental health challenges, body image issues, as well as how I was able to cope through suicide with depression and find self-love. Through listening you could also feel inspired to begin a process of self-reflection and healing.

Seeking Mental Health

We started by talking about my personal experiences with mental health. I am a huge advocate for seeking a therapist or a counselor or any mental health professional. This is because there have been many tough situations I faced including marriages that did not work. I went through a phase of trying to fix everyone else’s situation and pouring my all into everyone else so I felt drained and it lead to a lot of anxiety and depression. I had rejection issues, abandonment issues and self-worth issues. I had to go back and relive my life to uncover where these issues came from.

I remembered my first mental health therapist. She was the very first one who said to me “Kimberly, I’m sorry you went through that” after hearing my story. I just broke down and cried and she gave me the release and sense of fulfillment that I needed to understand that some things were beyond my control and not my fault. 

The host commented on how we tend to think these horrible things happen because of us and we are depressed because of the belief that we are the horrible person or we are what’s wrong with the situation. But that is not true. It is not your fault, sh*t happens and it is all about how we internalize it.

“I am not responsible for anyone else’s behavior or actions done to me but what I am responsible for… is how I react, how I behave and the things that I do.”

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Confronting Suicide with Depression

The host spoke about how her brother passed away from an overdose and her mom would always blame other people for it. His life wasn’t easy but it was still his choice to get the drugs. He never made the choice to seek mental health and seek a therapist. When the host had suicidal thoughts as well, she had to make a choice to either listen to her brain or seek a therapist.

I have also had suicidal thoughts that were about to become a reality. I had the knife in my hand thinking that no one understands this hurt and this pain, and this life was not worth it. I was ready to end it but I had the choice to question whether I wanted to deal with the actions and behaviors of others and the pain it brought me. But at the end of the day, there had to be a better way through because pain, hurt and disappointment are natural things that happen, but at the same time, we are going to have to be able to cope with it.

The host asked what lead up to it and what made me put it down?

It was everything. Including the ending of a relationship that I poured so much of myself into. I also felt the pressure of being so responsible for my children’s success, their future and feeling like I was not doing enough. I felt the pressure was just unbearable to deal with. It was very scary for me and hurtful.

The host commented that suicide is not about wanting to die, it is about the pain and not knowing any another way to make the pain stop.

I recalled the event with the kife in my hand. I remembered the look in my little girl’s eyes and she grabbed my hand saying “mommy NO!”. Even when I let it go and got in the car, I cried out to God who I depend on everyday and said: 

“Lord I need you to help me, I need you to give me the strength, I know you already feel and see what i’m going through, I can’t do this, I really need you.”

~ KIM

I had to completely surrender to my higher power. It didn’t end there, it had to be a process. I had to start building my spirituality with God… 

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Guest Jeremiah Ukponrefe

My name is Jeremiah Ukponrefe and I made an appearance on the write or die show speaking about my experience with depression.

Being on the show was outside of my comfort zone, but also a positive experience. I have not spoken publicly about my depression before, but simply talking to another person made it easier. 

My main strategy for treating depression is staying busy in all areas of my life and finding balance. For me building an active social life, and getting out of the house is essential, to the point where I find being out of the house for a minimum of five days of the week is effective. There are multiple ways of doing this, it might mean going to a concert or through an exercise that requires other people like boxing or soccer. My happiness is often the culmination of multiple things, not just exercise or socializing, but a consistent effort each and every day to be better.

Another thing to note is that it will never truly be perfect. There will be slip-ups and bad days, and I remind myself that at no point will I ever be at my best moments forever, the same way that my lowest moments will not always be the norm, and through trial and error it becomes easier to find what works for the individual. 

My book Hive is available now, the novel is about a world where an alien invasion occurred that humanity nearly defeated, and what happens when it turns out that not only is the alien not gone, but it holds far more secrets than humanity originally believed.

More on me can be found at my social media links and to find my book Hive it can be found at Amazon or my website

For updates on my upcoming book Finite the second book in The Arcane Volumes, or for a free preview of Hive join my email list by going to my website at www.jeremiahu.com

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Guest Douglas Weiss

When I started Amazing Limits, I hadn’t even the clue if it would come to completion. Even More came after 12 Amazing Limit’s ( 1 for the original 12 disciples in Jesus’ Ministry). After Pentecost, 3000 were added to the church on that day, and as such, Even More to today, hence the name. 

Today, I sit with copious idea’s forward how to advance this pictorial nonsense; However, I do not feel IT IS nonsense. Amazing Limits and Even More, are just a guide to my hope in Christ through the real madness that is everywhere right now.

To describe it any other way would be wrong: Amazing Limits and Even More are my Love letter’s to Christ and my Family.

Both Amazing Limits and Even More, hope to bring about the change in hearts of people around the world. 

The opportunity to write and create has been a passion in my recovery. Being able to openly talk about my disability candidly has been very helpful. I encourage other Author’s and even aspiring writer’s: Pursue your dreams, and put your will and life into the hand’s of Christ. What ever your heart’s yearn toward, Jesus Christ can make it happen. 

What has occurred because of this interview, essentially flipped me out of my own defeatist attitude. I fail when I fail, not because who you are what you say or you do. Those are identity issues that don’t fall on my conscience any further. If god can forgive Me, I can forgive me.

Try and narrate your life in 26 mins or less. It’s hard, fun enjoyable and rewarding.

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